Today I received my first rejection from a university (University of Southern California), and I’m not going to sugarcoat anything about it. Even though this school was definitely a reach, it still hurt to read the rejection letter. I didn’t cry but feeling inadequate sucks. Especially when I felt like I put so much work into high school.

That being said, I am in no way angry or vengeful, because when it comes down to it someone, who likely deserved it more than I did, got what I viewed as “my spot”. A friend of mine who kicked ass in high school got in and I couldn’t be happier for her! USC wasn’t for me, and deep (deep deep) down I know that’s okay, In fact, I know that that’s more than okay, because in the spur of rejection, I pick have learned to myself back up and I get back to kicking ass.

Being rejected is a part of life, whether we like it or not. Frankly, if you aren’t being rejected you probably aren’t pushing yourself hard enough… no offense.

I recently read another blog post that was also talking about how to cope with rejection, but the post felt rather impersonal, so we are going to jump right into just a few of the many, many rejections I have faced just in this past year. ((I hope these mildly painful memories can help remind you that we all get rejected now and then, but we press on))

  1. This year, I didn’t make it into my All-State band, which I had technically been the first chair of the year before, and although that sounds kind of trivial, this rejection also meant that my acceptance to the East Coast band was rescinded- and I was honestly so freaking excited about this. This means that I had to explain to everyone who I had told about the East Coast band why my acceptance was taken away and why I wouldn’t be at my senior all-state. Having people apologize as if they played a part in my subpar audition was not only awkward but also disheartening.
  2.  A boy that I had been talking (in a mildly flirty manner) to recently got a girlfriend and stopped talking to me altogether. lol.
  3.  I ran for vice president of a club (and gave a killer speech if you ask me) and I lost the election by one vote.

I honestly have about a gazillion more, but to be honest I really don’t remember the details about any of them, because the past is in the past. To say the least, I have learned a ton from each one of these events, and I don’t regret a thing.

Also, side note, I have also found that some positions/parts that I have applied for that were out of my reach opened up great opportunities that I would never have had if I didn’t risk rejection in the first place. aka you miss every shot you don’t take.

so keep ya head up.

Love you alottle,
tori

P.S. I know rejections really fucking suck, and it’s okay to be emotional (whatever those emotions may be) and it’s okay to want to/not want to talk about it. On the other hand, it’s not okay to question your self-worth, your integrity, or your character. Your “value” is not determined by others, and even though that sounds cheesy, we tend to forget that sometimes. ok sorry for getting sappy, get back to kicking ass.

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