Hi, friends! I have been really struggling to find the inspiration to write this week, so I decided to share my biggest tip for self-growth and personal development! These have been a hectic few years for me (go check out my high school reflection post to read about how high school changed me)! I have learned a ton about myself and who I want to be.

In the summer leading up to junior year, I was chatting with a friend. I briefly mentioned how I was trying to be a better person blah blah blah. Her response is something I will never forget. She said, “I’ve just accepted that I’m a shit person”. At the time, this didn’t seem like a big deal (gotta love that teenage angst). Now that I look back on this, I can’t help but think that this was the real reason our friendship failed.

Every day, every week, every month, etc, I aspire to be a better person. In fact, every year I think about how much I have improved as a person. I can’t help but wonder how people put up with me when I used to be so shitty.

Make an effort every single day to be the best human you can be and more importantly be a better human than you were the day before; Do not become victim to accepting mediocrity. That is my universal secret to being a better person, living a more fulfilling life, and building meaningful relationships. Simply aspire to be better.

You might be thinking wow that’s so vague, thanks for nothing. But self-growth is that simple. We could delve into specific strategies for specific areas of self-growth (I will probably go into my personal goals in another post), but that is useless if you don’t have the drive to be better.

You must push yourself every damn day to be a better person than the day before, whether that means whispering loving affirmations to yourself in the mirror or reminding yourself to drop the selfish habits or doing some morning stretches.

Self-growth isn’t simply waking up early on the weekends to be more productive or trying to incorporate more kale into your diet. Self-growth is about making the conscious effort to improve your life and the lives of those around you. Take some time and really think about how you want to improve as a person. Do you want to be more kind? More spontaneous? Less selfish? Do something every day that pushes you toward those goals.

I could try and tell you that I know how to perfect your life, but we both know only you can do that. There is no magic trick for self-growth. You gotta take some initiative, hun.

grab life by the balls, so to speak.

It is easy to accept things the way they are. We all fall into this trap every now and then. We accept average because it’s easy. Don’t let yourself peak at mediocre.

I can not define what self-growth should mean to you.

All I can tell you is that if you take the initiative every day to be better it will happen in time.

Love you alottle,

P.S. This isn’t to say we never have bad days where we act shitty and say things we don’t mean. Part of trying to be better is fixing the mistakes of the days before. Say sorry, whether it is to someone else or to yourself and keep pushing. you got dis.